Big? Fat? Chubby? Curvy? Whatever you want to call it, its all one synonymous blur in my head now. These terms are no longer “negative” or “positive”, they are mere adjectives to me. My ability to stop seeing the word “fat” as something bad, negative or wrong has probably been my greatest stepping stone towards self-acceptance. I guess you could say, I have been able to “neutralize” the negativity that surrounds my body type.
I describe myself as being fat the same way I describe myself as being 5’5.5 or having dark hair. It is simply something that is me, which is void of binary inclination.I am not saying that these adjectives are not subject to change. If I lost weight, if I changed the colour of my hair, I would be associated with different terminologies. But these new ones, just like the old ones would not be “negative” or “positive” - but simply neutral.
What I’m trying to say here is that if you are someone that is attatched to certain “terms” that are underpinned with negative connotation, you will find the biggest way to overcome the “negativity” is to neutralize- in your own way - what the term implies. Words are powerful, but they are defined by your understanding. If you are able to take the words that hurt you the most, or make you the most uncomfortable, and change your perception of them, you will find that your ability to “cope” with negativity becomes far easier.