“Usually when a black woman is attacked we find some way of making it her fault. We ask questions like what was she wearing? What does she do for a living? How many sexual partners has she had in the past? You know, the typical stuff that removes accountability from her attacker. But in this case, where a black woman minding her damn business awoke to an attacker in her second story apartment, normal victim-blaming would not work. So now what do we do, because we obviously can’t take a black woman’s story of violence seriously? Well, that’s simple. We marginalize the attack and focus the story on her brother, whose anger we can exploit because it fits into stereotypes of queer masculinity that provide comic relief. The producers used the footage to lock Antoine in a frame, to capture him in place, in order to tell a story that fits their truths—black women’s confrontations with sexual violence are either not real or unimportant. Framed under the guise of “news” this masquerades as a story about a woman awaking to an intruder in her bed but is really a story about a funny black man, hilarious in his anger. It was never about her… When you are made invisible through processes of erasure, people don’t even acknowledge that you’re gone.”—Antoine Dodson’s Sister: On Invisibility as Violence « The Crunk Feminist Collective (via buttahlove, thetart)
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”—Philippians 4:6,7 (via contemplatedaffinities)
you may not believe me AT ALL when I say this (and thats ok lol) But I do believe he will come to you. Most likely before you’re 30 :) And there’s definetely nothing wrong with you and HE will surely prove that to you when you meet him
Thanks girl. I do believe you, Im just annoyed and impatient. And I hope this guy does come before 30, preferibly like now. lol
You’ve got your freedom, you’ve got your space, you’ve got your peace and quiet. You’ve got a few less responsibilities than you would if you were in a relationship, but one thing you’re missing, is someone to hold. Sometimes I’m having a bad day and wish I could call someone up to come cuddle with me. Someone to hold close and kiss on the forehead and on the lips. Sometimes, I just need someone.
Its a part of growing up that people go through and it puts people through a lot of stress, heart break, and transformation. But it also can be one of many loving, romantic, intimate, rewarding, and amazing moments in a persons life.
Never been in one. Never been close to one. Embarrassing? No, I dont consider it that anymore. Is it something that Ive always wanted growing up? Yes. Why havent I ever been in one? I really cant tell you a straight answer b/c I simply dont know. I feel that its a couple of things that may contribute to it, but theres still no clear answer.
As a young adult, Ive learned and appreciated being by myself in general. I would say that 80% of the time I enjoy my own company and can do things on my own time and not have to worry about what other people think or consider their feelings about something that I do or just enjoy my own space. Then theres that other 20% when im alone, and all it feels like is that no one cares or even thinks about me. I never thought of myself as attractive or beautiful, because I was never really told that I was, besides my family. But you know when your parents tell you the same stuff and it starts to lose meaning because they say it just b/c they are your family? Yea that was one of those things. But as a normal human being, I desire attention and recognition like everyone else, and sometimes it feels that Im doing something wrong or that something is wrong with me because Im here in this corner by myself while everyone around me is pursued or receives attention or has someone that takes the time out to get to know them.
Why am I any different? How are they any great of a person than I am? Am I something to be ashamed of? Am I doing something wrong? When will it be my time?
Not to toot my own horn, but I am a great fucking person. I am an awesome friend, a great listener, trustworthy person. But most of all, Im a woman that wants to seen as such. Im not saying I want attention to all of a sudden gravitate to me b/c I dont really like that, but just for someone to acknowledge me as a beautiful woman that can be viewed as worthy of being intimate with, someone who can be proud to be seen with me, and just someone to get close with. Am I asking for to much? b/c every time I think about this, it seems like I am.
Im more than some girl you can get answers for assignments or can do a quick favor for or pretend to be my friend when you tryna go smack at my friend. -___- no, fuck that shit.
Maybe because I dont get approached is because I never thought I was worthy of being approached, and that shows in my actions. Confidence is key. Im told that a lot. And its a work in progress.
Ehh, I dont know what to think or do. I guess keep wishing? Better yet, What can I do to make this stop bothering me? It seems to be more stress than what its worth for some people, but I why do I want it so much then?
Always want what you cant have. Heard that one a lot, too…
lol this is all over the place. But Id thought it would help talking about. =/ ehhhh. Unfollow if you see fit.
whoever started that Seven Deadly sins challenge was awesome ! I loved it, it had me think a little about myself. after that, I might start on a Seven Heavenly Virtues Challenge. which would go as follows:
1. Humility - Seven things people compliment you on. 2. Kindness - Seven traits that make you nice. 3. Patience - Seven things that are irksome, yet tolerable. 4. Diligence - Seven things you work hard at. 5. Charity - Seven ways you give to others. 6. Temperance - Seven things you have self-control over. 7. Chastity - Seven chaste-like rules to live by.
it is a rough draft, but I like the idea. like, number seven I’m not too sure about. but what do some of you all think? don’t go answering me all at once..